Impossible Is Nothing

"Your daughter is an impossible case!" muttered the 80 year old match-maker to my mom.


My "impossibility" was that I had a list of things I was looking for in the guy I wanted to marry. Apparently being well-educated, financially secure, well-mannered, sincere, honest, genuine, able to handle marriage and its responsibilities, and having integrity was asking too much of a guy--and inadvertently cast me as the "impossible" 30 year old. Looking for someone belonging to a decent family background with good Islamic and moral values was too high of an expectation. Wanting someone who is not a hypocrite and a liar, and hasn't been previously married merited as ''extremely high standards''.


Now, there is a serious flaw in all this: #1. I'm not impossible and #2. Never take advice from an 80 year old. Especially that 80 year old who has nothing better to do in life except bestow upon himself the notion that the rest of his living days should be spent in the confines of his house taking calls from random no-bodys and then proceeding to convince others that the proposal being suggested is absolutely perfect for their son or daughter. Apart from this, the only other activity left is to dunk his dentures in a glass of water.

My list, I was told, was nothing but a fantasy, and I'm destined for spinsterhood. It's impossible to find a guy these days with even ONE of the things in the list, said the geezer.


Well, let's take a look at what the guys want: beautiful, loving, caring, confident, good sense of humor, keen interest in family, understanding, compromising, be there through the highs and lows, traditional but knows how to have fun (what in the world does that mean by the way?!!), accepting of his imperfections, adapt to his family, loyal, compassionate, intelligent, religious, share his interests and passions, pretty eyes, pretty smile, honest, reliable, educated, and trustworthy. And these are just some of the items from their list.....so now who is asking for too much?


Truth is there are no impossibilities in this world. Anything is possible. What is needed, actually, is a firm belief in self and in God. A conviction that despite the odds, despite the turn-downs, despite the wretched bitterness that people love to shove in your face, despite the defeatist attitude of our society, despite the put-offs, despite the disappointments, despite the tough luck, despite the bad luck, despite the feeling of hopelessness at times, despite the feeling that life isn't giving you a break, despite the feeling that God isn't listening, despite the feeling that nothing is working in your favor, despite ALL THIS----things will look up and the day will shine brighter. The moment will come when everything you've been hoping for will suddenly wrap you up in its grip and remind you that you really do deserve all this and much more.....it was just a matter of time.